Marriage? - A quick guide to the Groom

To the Groom

• Guy, you will be flying on cloud nine with your fiancé in your dreams about married life. Nothing wrong so enjoy your dreams at the same time prepare yourself to face the new life and responsibility.

• A wife loves her husband more than anyone in this world (keep aside the jokes and let us make some serious talks man!). All a woman expect from her husband is just love hence never underestimate her role in your life irrespective of her contribution financially. Woman can do anything for their husband just for his ‘love’ which means she can even adjust with her in-laws for his love. So be a wise husband.

• Talk with your fiancé about honeymoon… e.g. what’s your budget, where you want to go, how many days of holiday you are planning etc. If you involve her it ensures a smooth start of your life.

• Ensure you give a pleasant life to the girl who comes to live with your rest of her life. You will not like to see your sister suffer in her married life, likewise your wife also deserves the same from you.

• Never let your ego take over you as it will not just stop with that but ruin peace at home, bring a toughness in relationship, separation…….. at the end of your journey all you are left with will be unpleasant memories. Your wife is your equal partner in life hence never hesitate to initiate a talk after your fight or in saying ‘sorry’ and accepting your mistakes. If mistake is on her side, then learn to forgive her (in mind. Never consider this gesture as a favour. It is your duty) and try to change her to the right path with your affection & love.

• Should maintain a balance between relationships. [you, your wife, you parents, your siblings and your parents-in-law.

• You need to devote same attention and love to your wife as you would do for your parents / siblings and vice versa. Never neglect your wife or your parents for the sake of the other.

• Never let the privacy you both need dwindle at any point of your life unless the situation requires you both to do so (use your reasoning ability). As this factor also leads to fights or separation, be wise.

Be clear about the following :-

1. There are matters which you need to discuss with your wife and not tell your parents.
2. There are matters which you need to discuss with your wife and also with our parents.
3. There are personal matters which you need not tell your parents after marriage and maintain between only both of you. 
4. Never make fun of your in-laws to your wife or to your parents (you are the bridge between two families like how your wife acts between your's and her's)
5. Never make fun of your spouse in front of others if she is not easy going.

• Any violation in the above will only result in unpleasant situations and a drift in the relationship.

• If your wife loses her temper soon or take petty things to her heart, becomes emotional and argues, you don’t reply back as it will only pour more fuel into the burning fire. Instead just give an understanding smile, hear her and ensure a moral support to her. If she is wrong make her understand that diplomatically. No shouting back. No punishing. No hard feelings. As these things only create a distance between you too. If you are a wise man you can turn your woman a wise one just like you.

• If your spouse is working, lend her support at home in doing chores. Never feel that it is only her duty. If you happen to reach home before her, when she comes, be neatly dressed, with beaming face & smiile welcome her back. This is not a general rule just for a wife but also applies for a husband. She will be coming home hungry and may appreciate it very much if you serve her some snack & beverage (made or bought) which will boost her energy levels. Like you she also would have faced some hard situations at office or outside during commutation. Listen to her if she wish to share her day’s happenings.

• Compliment her. This is a small boost required in life and goes a long way. It is the best gift too than material gifts

• You may also play a role as a father hence be a responsible man and a father to your child / children so that they will also become one like you in their life. Thus you are passing a great unperishable asset to your coming generations.

Wish you a happy Husband-hood.


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Other related posts :-

1. Quick life guide to Parents-in-law  
2. Quick life guide to Bride
3. Quick life guide to Bride and Groom

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